http:\/\/https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=QxsmWxxouIM<\/a><\/p>\nOne of my favorite poems from For Colored Girls is the poem \u201csorry\u201d. MAN I wish this poem wasn\u2019t so damn relatable. I literally found myself laughing out loud. I love the way Shange personifies the \u201csorry\u201d, stating \u201cI got sorry greeting me at my front door\u201d and how she can\u2019t even open her closet without the empty \u201csorries\u201d of men spilling out at her feet. I think I also appreciate the specificity of it. As a queer woman who dates men, being begrudgingly \u201capologized\u201d to, only for that \u201capology\u201d being followed by the same exact behavior the falling week is such a specific and painful experience I never thought about before. It\u2019s so validating how Shange was able to give space for that, and the specific experiences we need to heal from lackluster love from men. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
you were always inconsistent<\/span><\/i><\/p>\ndoin somethin & then bein sorry<\/span><\/i><\/p>\nbeatin my heart to death!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\ntalkin bout you sorry well,<\/span><\/i><\/p>\ni will not call,<\/span><\/i><\/p>\ni\u2019m not goin to be nice,<\/span><\/i><\/p>\ni will raise my voice,<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n& scream & holler<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n& break things & race the engine<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n& tell all your secrets bout yourself to your face<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n& i will list in detail everyone of my wonderful lovers<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n& their ways i will play oliver lake loud!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n& i \u00a0wont be sorry for none of it<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
The poem discusses how no matter men\u2019s violence, when they do apologize, it\u2019s not in a place to heal the situation or help progress the relationship. Instead, it is usually a silencing tactic. It\u2019s a word that crosses its arms, waiting by the door for immediate forgiveness and forgetfulness. There is an expectation that you must do the work to forgive and heal alone, and to expect for him to do this work with you is asking for too much. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
This poem immediately reminded me of Beyonce\u2019s song \u201cSorry\u201d from her Lemonade Album. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
Now you want to say you’re sorry<\/span><\/i><\/p>\nNow you want to call me crying<\/span><\/i><\/p>\nNow you gotta see me wilding<\/span><\/i><\/p>\nNow I’m the one that’s lying<\/span><\/i><\/p>\nAnd I don’t feel bad about it<\/span><\/i><\/p>\nIt’s exactly what you get<\/span><\/i><\/p>\nStop interrupting my grinding<\/span><\/i><\/p>\nI ain’t thinking ’bout you<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
In \u201cSorry\u201d by Beyonce, she repeats multiple times how she\u2019s not \u201csorry\u201d for her behavior (staying out late, spending time with her girls, and dancing). Unlike the men in Shange\u2019s poem, she will not give an empty sorry to follow her behavior. She argues that her lover has driven her to this point, after making her miserable, waiting late for him, and having him lie to her constantly—\u201dbeatin her heart to death\u201d as Shange puts it. Beyonce assures him multiple time \u201ci ain\u2019t thinkin bout you\u201d, similar to Shange\u2019s \u201cI will not call\u201d and \u201ci will be sorry for none of it\u201d assertion. The song is about Beyonce celebrating her own company and her companionship with other women in place of the empty companionship from a men. The video has groups of women dancing, carefree and unbothered, reminding me of images of Shange. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n
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