Giving up a part of the (or even the whole) self to sustain/nourish/love men is a very female experience. For Colored Girls offers the common understanding of sisterhood as a way to uncover and embrace the music of your spirit, and as a way for women—especially women of color—to reclaim their ownership/pride of the self.
I read the choreopoem while watching/listening to a Middlebury College adaptation. Experiencing Shange’s work as a performance completely changed the way I was able to experience and engage with the text. I want to look specifically at the poems “somebody almost walked off wid alla my stuff” and “sorry” and how they are in dialogue with each other. The first poem talks about how relationships/men can take from women the very essence of themselves/all that is nourishing (“my laugh”, “my rhythms & my voice” & “my calloused feet & quick language”). The lady in green is the sole woman on the stage, yet watching the performance as a part of an audience, reacting claps and snaps fight the strong presence of isolation onstage. The crowd erupted in snaps after she said, “now you can’t have me less i give me away”. Within the audience exists a common understanding that sometimes for love we—women—give up all of the parts of ourselves that we love. But women need to handle their own stuff. They need to love themselves and stop taking care of themselves last.
There is a blurring of transition to “sorry”. The lights do not dim/there is no re-staging; the other women of color walk out one by one. They talk about how “sorry” isn’t nourishing. “Sorry” doesn’t make up for what men have taken. “Sorry” doesn’t allow women to feel wanted, understood & happy. I think the blurring of borders between the two poems speaks to the narrative as a whole. This isolated experience is easier understood in the company of other women. Shange shows that through sisterhood, women find space to navigate these painful experiences, and are able to find a place to care and love themselves.
Here is the adaptation I watched while reading the choreopoem…
Here are some songs I listened to while watching/reading For Colored Girls…
“Dancing in the Streets”/Martha & The Vandellas
“Stay in My Corner”/The Dells
“Che Che Colé”/ Willie Colón